Love is Always Enough - Or is It?

After years of studying relationships, healing, spiritual perspectives and personal life experiences, I tend to believe that old saying "All we need is love." When we are feeling sad, lonely, down and out, it sometimes takes just one caring and kind word, one loving gesture, one loving touch, and we may be able to snap out of a previously negative emotional state. marriage counseling

But is there ever a time when love is not enough? I believe that love is ALWAYS enough, that somehow we have not been able to love enough when we don't get the results we desire. The problem, or flaw, is often in our thinking. Sometimes we expect too much from our self and at other times we demand too much from others. And at the same time, we may not be able to step back, recognize and appreciate results when we attain them. the marriage counselor

If we desire to "get" another person to love us the way we want to be loved, we may not possess enough of our own love to 'get' that person to conform to our needs. By attempting to "get" another person to fit our dream, we are not showing love and it is not respecting the other person's process. No matter how close, no matter how emotionally intimate we believe we are with another person, we can never fully know and understand another person's thoughts, motivations, beliefs, passions, dreams and goals. We can only derive an approximation of their full thinking process. diversity training

If you don't believe this, think about your own thoughts. How often do you think something that another person might be shocked or horrified to know? How often do you think something but say something completely different? How much do you really know about another person and how much do others really know about you? family therapy

Love is always enough when we stop focusing on the other person, when we stop expecting to receive something specific from someone else. Love is enough when we focus on our own gratitude for being alive, when we take time every day to quiet our mind and to go within. Love is enough when we view every human being as a complete and sovereign entity, including and especially our self, when we offer our love and compassion and friendship without expectation of immediate return on investment. family therapy near me

Love is not enough when we expect our life to be different from the way it currently is. Love is not enough when we demand that others "be' different from the way they currently are. Love is not enough when we suffer over people and circumstance that we cannot control. Depression treatment

Change is the only certainty we have in life. We can love our life by accepting current reality as it is, whether we like it or not, and then continue to hold a clear vision of the way we want our life to be. If we hold on to our vision, let go of our fear of the unknown and our fear that the way it is right now is the way it will always be, we can take small steps every day toward reaching our goals. And, we can reach out to others for help and guidance and yes, love.

Love is not enough if we stare at our current reality and berate our self for being where we are. Love is all we need if we can pat our self on the back and love our self, every single step along the way toward building the life and relationships we truly desire.

Is love enough in your life now? If not, what do you need to do, to be, to learn, or to receive so that you can honestly say to yourself that love is enough for you? Are you willing to reach out for help if you are currently struggling to find the love that you know is there?


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